I once worked for an organization where, “the Boss” had trained a dog in her lifetime, (yes, one dog) and so she thought she knew everything there was to know about training dogs. She instructed me that I was to teach my dog training students that the word “no” was off limits. They should never tell their dog “no”. Instead, they should say, “oopsie”. At first I thought she was kidding. She wasn’t. My second thought, for some reason, was the time I spent in Marin County, California, training some of the correctional officers from the Maximum Security Prison, San Quentin. I thought about telling them to tell their dogs “oopsie”, instead of “no.”. Next, my thoughts (this is all within a few seconds, mind you) went closer to home and I thought of the hard working, grizzled and gutsy plains farmers in this area and I thought of telling them to tell their dogs, “oopsie”. Lastly, my thoughts came back to, “why am I working for this woman?”. And, I didn’t, for much longer. But, anyway, what I think she was trying to get across was the very sound idea that “no” shouldn’t be a word associated with negativity. An idea I’ve been teaching for years. When you tell your dog, “no”, it shouldn’t necessarily mean that he’s in trouble, only that you want him to stop doing what he is currently doing.
When he’s in trouble, you can convey that in another manner, I use “shame on you!”. Or, just, “shame!”.
However, we really need a word that just means, “stop what you are doing”. Not, “You are in trouble for doing it!”. Because, what if he’s not in trouble? What if what you want him to stop doing now, is something you want him to do later?
Example: My American Bulldog, Levi, is very helpful on my ranch when it comes to convincing large, ornery, livestock to go in the direction I want them to go in. He helps me get the bulls in the stock trailer and the six-hundred pound sows through the breeding chutes. He loves working the stock. However, he’s not a Border Collie or other herding breed, so, he’s not very good about deciding which stock to move, and where. I have to tell him. If he starts moving the wrong sow or steer I have to tell him, “no”. It simply means, not that one, not yet. It does not mean, “you are a bad dog for trying to move that pig or cow.” See how confused a dog can get if he thinks “no” means “bad”? Because the reality is that I WILL want him moving that animal in a few minutes and I don’t want him afraid that he’ll be doing something wrong by trying to move it. This is why I use “no” to simply mean, “Stop”. Can you use, “oopsie”? Certainly! But, please, don’t use it around me.
